Community - The Only Way To Live

For the past several weeks I have explored how vulnerability, honesty, accountability, and intentionality help create deep and meaningful relationships. While having one such relationship built on these elements is incredible, building a community of friends through the same concepts is where an even greater beauty lies. 

Any deep and meaningful friendship provides each individual with remarkable love and support. But there is a danger in having only one such relationship. Whether it’s a spouse, a significant other, or a friend; one of the worst things we can do to a relationship is expect the other person to meet all our needs or convince ourselves we can meet all of theirs. The old adage “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket” definitely applies to relationships. In fact, one of the greatest gifts we can give to those we hold dear is to help cultivate strong bonds with multiple individuals. This creates a healthy community where many intimate relationships can flourish. 

Each person in our lives possesses wisdom, experiences, and perspectives that differ from our own. They each have strengths and weaknesses that vary, which means they have different things to offer relationships. And this means there are times one individual brings something to the table that another can’t offer, a friend often has something a spouse can’t offer, and a spouse has something that no friend can provide. But no one person can offer everything, all the time. 

I know people who believe their husband or wife is able to meet every need. To expect this is remarkably naive and incredibly unfair! 

This sets our spouse or our friends up for guaranteed failure.

Everything...

All the time...

An impossible standard for any human to meet.

Every Monday night, my wife and I meet with a group of couples on our patio. We laugh, break bread, enjoy wine, share life’s joys, and partner in life’s struggles. Each relationship on the patio is the result of varying degrees of vulnerability, honesty, accountability, and intentionality. This community, our community, our friends we live life with, is the lifeblood of so much of what we do. These men and women support us, they love us, they pray for us, the carry our burdens for us, they are there whenever we need them.

Together, our joys are multiplied and our pains are divided. 

Joys multiplied... 

Pains divided...

There is no other way to live!

It’s through these types of relationships that we experience love, it's through these relationships that we experience provision. Through these relationships, we find joy and strength. We face the obstacles of life with an army of individuals we know has our back.

It's not easy... we have to work hard for it. We have to open up and let others into our darkness, trust them with all of who we are. We have to engage in honest dialogue, be okay with others holding us accountable, and pursue one another. But it's worth it!

We were never meant to live in solitude. We were created to live in community with one another so we could know love and wouldn’t have to navigate the struggles of life on our own. Any relationship grounded in vulnerability, honesty, accountability, and intentionality is beautiful; but when a group of people living life together, embraces the same principles, each individual is capable of so much more.

More strength…

More faith…

More love.